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Here are some of the most common questions I get about therapy.

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The Questions You Might Be Afraid to Ask

What if I'm not exactly sure why I want therapy?

That's okay. You don't need a perfect explanation or a list of goals before we meet.

Sometimes people start therapy because they're anxious, exhausted, disconnected, or tired of repeating the same patterns. Other times, something feels off, but they aren't sure what.

Part of my job is helping you figure out what's going on and what you'd like to change. We figure that out together.

What if my problems aren't bad enough for therapy?

You don't need to reach a breaking point before getting support.

If something is affecting your happiness, relationships, confidence, or ability to enjoy your life, it's worth talking about.

Someone else having a harder time doesn't make your experiences less important. Therapy isn't a competition over who has the biggest problems.

What if I feel emotionally numb or struggle to identify my feelings?

Then that's where we'll start.

Some people experience emotions intensely. Others feel disconnected, shut down, or unsure what they're feeling at all.

We can explore what's happening in your thoughts and nervous system without forcing an emotional response. You don't have to cry, open up immediately, or express feelings a certain way to benefit from therapy.

What if I never cry during therapy?

Then you never cry during therapy. Seriously, that's fine.

Crying isn't a requirement, and it's definitely not how I measure progress.

Progress might look like understanding yourself better, setting a boundary, responding differently to anxiety, or feeling more comfortable being yourself.

Tears are optional.

What if I start crying and can't stop?

First, you don't need to apologize for crying.

Strong emotions are welcome in therapy. If things start feeling overwhelming, we'll slow down and focus on helping you feel grounded.

My goal isn't to push you into intense feelings before you're ready. We'll work at a pace appropriate for you.

What if I get frustrated with you or disagree with something you say?

Please tell me!

I'm human. Sometimes I'll misunderstand something, ask a question that doesn't land well, or suggest something that doesn't fit.

I'd much rather talk about those moments than have you sit there feeling misunderstood.

Sometimes working through disagreements in therapy helps us understand how you experience conflict and what healthy communication looks like for you.

Is it okay to admit I hate my partner, family, or someone I'm supposed to love?

Yes. You get to have complicated feelings about people you love.

Anger, resentment, frustration, guilt, and love sometimes show up in the same relationship.

You don't need to make your feelings sound nicer before bringing them into therapy. We'll explore what's underneath them without immediately deciding what they mean about you or your relationships.

Are there topics too personal or uncomfortable to discuss?

Sex, religion, politics, relationships, identity, shame, money, and the thoughts you're embarrassed to admit are all welcome topics.

As a therapist specializing in anxiety and LGBTQ+ experiences, I'm comfortable having conversations about subjects people have been taught to avoid.

You also get to decide what you're ready to share. Therapy should never feel like an interrogation.

What if I don't know what to talk about during a session?

You don't need to show up with a prepared agenda.

Some sessions start with a specific problem. Others begin with "I have no idea what to talk about today."

We might explore how your week went, notice recurring patterns, revisit previous conversations, or check in on your goals.

You're not responsible for making every session interesting or productive on your own.

What if I tell you I'm having suicidal thoughts? Will you hospitalize me?

Talking about suicidal thoughts doesn't automatically mean hospitalization.

I want clients to feel comfortable being honest about difficult thoughts, including thoughts about suicide or self-harm.

If you're experiencing these thoughts, we'll talk about what's happening, assess your safety, and explore appropriate ways to support you.

Hospitalization is considered when there's a serious safety concern requiring a higher level of care. Any decision depends on the full circumstances, including whether safety is manageable through less restrictive options.

Confidentiality has legal and ethical limits, and we'll discuss those limits as part of informed consent.

Do you think about your clients outside of sessions?

Sometimes, yes.

I take our work seriously, and preparing for sessions or reflecting on something we've discussed is part of providing thoughtful care.

I also believe healthy professional boundaries matter. My goal is to be present, engaged, and supportive during our work together.

What if therapy doesn't seem to be helping?

Then I want us to talk about that.

Therapy isn't supposed to be something you keep doing indefinitely without understanding why.

We'll check in on your goals, discuss what's helping and what isn't, and make adjustments when needed.

If a different approach or therapist would serve you better, that's a conversation worth having, too. You deserve treatment that makes sense for your needs.

Specialties

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    Anxiety Therapy

    Many of us were raised to believe we should shoot for the moon to achieve our dreams. However, as we become adults, we’re faced with the stark contrast of reality. In today’s grind culture, it seems like productivity is valued over everything else. Suddenly, the hopes and dreams that guided us are exchanged for the demands placed on us to achieve results at all costs.

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    LGTBQ+ Therapy

    Being immersed in intolerance can plant a seed of doubt within us which makes us question ourselves and our identity. If, for example, we were raised within a church whose doctrine views homosexuality as sinful, this lack of acceptance often magnifies our doubts and insecurities, leading us to feel shameful for being LGBTQ+.

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